The picture below is my mother, Jan. Looks so sweet and friendly and God knows I wish that were true!! Jan is a narcissist and what I would be willing to bet to be the Queen of female narcissists.  Jan has not been any kind of mother since I was young and she has been a personal nightmare for me, never letting up in her quest to control or destroy me.  It actually seems like you have to worship her like a god and do everything exactly the way she wants it done or you have displeased her for which there was a multitude of punishments.